Polyamory is about being in relationships that don’t follow the standard social script. Solo polyamory is about being poly without having, or necessarily wanting, a primary/nesting-style relationship. There is a lot of pressure to ride the relationship escalator. For those of us who don’t want to, we can feel out of place or ‘othered’ frequently.
Most of the advice about polyamory seems to be written by or for people in established couples (primary partners) who are opening their relationship, or who did so awhile ago. Typically the emphasis is on how to open a relationship “safely” — but safe for whom?
It’s ironic: Polyamory is grounded in the values of consent and communication. But in real-world poly relationships, these values can get applied inconsistently — often at the expense of non-primary partners. Together, we’ll ponder questions and challenge polynormative assumptions in an attempt to work towards finding solutions and options for solo-poly people.
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